fix: React 19 fixes for Table related components

[artur-ptaszek-mck]

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Since update to React 19-rc.1 (which is part of the latest NextJS 15) these functionalities started to fail (at least in the app we have). These changes helped avoid usages of findDOMNode that has been removed as well as defaultProps which didn't have an effect "from outside" all these settings were empty. Cannot say it's complex support for the latest React, but it's a great start.

[henryqdineen]

createRef was introduced in 16.3 so this might be a breaking change based on peer deps.